Jealousy and its types

I would like to talk about jealousy, in a different way, God willing. Every day, thousands of people search in search engines for the word jealousy. Some of them search for jealousy between lovers, others search for the jealousy of envy, and everyone searches for something that interests them. What will we talk about in this article? Before I go into the types, I want to talk about something important, so be careful: sadness, jealousy, joy, anger, hatred, love, hate. All of these emotions, when they move in our chests, we change. They either cause us lethargy, laziness, and depression, or they increase our activity and movements, and these Emotions are like steam. When emotions are raging, the steam increases in our chests, causing us distress, activity, or something else...and this steam may rise to our heads. Whoever wants to sleep will lose his drowsiness, and whoever is healthy may suffer from headaches. Some emotions, due to the large number of rising vapors, cause tears to fall. The eye, and I told you these words as an imaginary way to understand these emotions, so I linked them to something real so that they become a reality, so the emotions in my own theory became [steam]. Perhaps you will say why am I talking about things that may be new to you? I said in response: It is stated in the Noble Sunnah that anger is a fire that is extinguished by ablution, water, relaxation, and changing the state of the body from standing to sitting and from sitting to lying down. This indicates to us that the emotions that we do not see are as if they are imaginary coupled with the truth. The emotion of anger is associated with fire, just as the emotion of happiness is associated with cold, and I think you have understood what is meant by these words, and among these emotions is [jealousy]. Jealousy can either be for something or for something: Jealousy for something [jealousy for the beloved] and it is not necessary that there be a lack of affection and love. The husband is jealous of his wife and demands that she wear wide clothes or not go out without him being with her, and the man’s jealousy over his household, including his mother and sisters. Girls...this jealousy is either natural, as I mentioned above, or it is due to suspicion and illness, so the man doubts his family members because his trust is non-existent and the reason for the loss of trust is known. Either it is due to something he saw in his family members that raised his doubts or from words he heard about them, or the doubt is due to A man’s bad deeds. An example of this is when a man does something that raises suspicions, such as talking to women, adultery, or doing evil deeds. These shameful actions plant doubt in his heart, so he thinks bad about his family. This doubt and illness has a cure, God willing, and I will mention it in other articles. Jealousy of something [a woman’s jealousy of a woman and a man of a man] and the reason for this jealousy is the love of superiority and distinction. The man wants to be better than his colleague, and the woman wants to be better than her friend or neighbor, or even her sisters. This jealousy may arouse envy in the hearts and may arouse joy without it. Envy is based on a person’s psychological and faith education. If this jealousy is accompanied by joy without envy or harm, then there is no harm in it, as it calls for excellence and success, but in most cases, because many souls are sick, it becomes [jealousy followed by harm]. Islam has warned us about this, and there are verses and hadiths that will enrich you, dear reader. There is a type of jealousy that is part of the first type: it is a girl’s jealousy over her beloved friend and a young man’s jealousy over his colleague and childhood friend. This is almost normal and depends on the person’s love for his friend and comes after habituation, by which I mean that the girl gets used to being with her friend for a long time, so if she sees inactivity in her She becomes jealous of the question or meeting, and also if she sees some new words from her that arouse sensitivity, and as a result of this, as I mentioned before, her emotions may become aroused and fumes rise to her head, resulting in either crying or headache and depression, and this girl wonders [Why did my friend change suddenly? Why did she say this word....] Then she confronts her after a few days and says, ‘You have changed a lot, my friend. Is there a reason? What did I do to you for you to do such and such? And perhaps these actions of her friend were normal and natural, but the rising fumes combined with Satan’s whisperings caused suspicions to enter. And the ignition of jealousy, and the cure for these actions is [frankness and balance]. When this matter happens between two close friends, there must be frankness and hesitation in making judgments with balance and gentleness. As a matter of urgency, there must be a meeting, raising the issue, and removing doubts, especially if there are many informants, and I have seen many people who were on good terms. And love, and as a result of the silence, lack of clarity, frankness, and the entry of informants between them, the problems increased and jealousy turned into hatred... God forbid. The disappearance of jealousy is linked to attention. Whenever there is interest between lovers, pathological jealousy disappears and only natural jealousy remains, which is indispensable to the person. Through what I wrote above, we understood that doubt is a state of illness that has affected [jealousy over]. We cannot say that a person who accuses his wife, sisters, or daughters a lot and does not trust them is very jealous. Rather, this comes from doubt, as jealousy does not come from a lack of trust, but rather from fear for the beloved and his preservation. So, if a man has an extremely jealous woman, or a woman who has a husband who is extremely jealous to the point of exhaustion, then the cure for this excessive jealousy is [attention]: care for your wife, ask about her, call her from time to time, and tell her that you cannot do without hearing her voice. After a few days, the jealousy will return to Her balance, and so is the woman. Take care of your husband. Do everything that your husband loves. Do not go out without his permission and do not adorn yourself except for him. Be modest and do not sow doubts in his heart. And know all of you that there is no disease without God having associated a cure with it. He sent them down together, and there is no problem without a solution. And most problems require one party to humbly compromise, and it does not mean that if I compromise, I have fallen short in my personality, but rather if we leave some things to God, God will compensate us..From the book Eye Colors and Their Attributes..and it is followed by (jealousy, the nature of a man, emotional sensitivity, self-confidence)